Gifts make everyone happy, but what if you find yourself in a sticky situation when you just received a bad gift and don’t know how to react to it and what to do with a bad gift?
Should you be frank and tell the person exactly how you feel about their gift or should you feign excitement and bite YOUR tongue?
Most likely you received an unwanted gift from a person you care about such as a family member, friend or someone you don’t know all too well such as a coworker which can make things a bit… complicated!
So how should you react to a bad gift? Here are some tips to not only help you handle these situations but also some suggestions on what to do with such gifts.
P.S: Keep reading till the end if you are dealing with a habitual bad gifter.
How To React To Bad Gifts
Unwanted Gifts From A loved one, READ- Spouse/ Boyfriend / Girlfriend,
Tell THEM, no.. really, but gently!
It feels crushing to know your gift is not appreciated and it feels even worse when the recipient is the love of your life.
But even though telling them the truth might seem like the hardest thing to do, being honest about it will save you and them any future disappointments
Feigning gratitude is easier but you risk getting similar gifts every year.
Be sure to broach the subject with sensitivity. As long as you are not rude, you will not likely hurt their feelings
It is a good idea to start the discussion by letting them know how much you appreciate their gesture and feel grateful before you gently explain what could have been a better choice/ style for you instead.
Contrary to what you might be thinking, they will be happy to know about your likes and dislikes so the next time they can make a winning choice that will truly impress you.
Bad Gifts From In-Laws
In comparison to any family relationships, reacting to bad gifts from in-laws requires A LOT of tact. Especially if it is the mother-in-law
Even if you are close to your in-laws, it is usually not easy to approach the subject without causing any emotional stress. There are a lot of feelings, social etiquettes, and expectations involved here. A rebuff might seem too personal!
You probably want to avoid all of this. So stick with me here…
It is probably a good idea to let the spouse do the talking/ suggesting here
Let them know what you need. It is always a GOOD IDEA to suggest something in their budget, so there is a better chance of them heeding the advice
But what if the spouse does not want to handle this
Then it is okay that you do the talking/ suggesting but remember to express gratitude for all they have gifted you so far so that you don’t ruffle the feathers
And remember… the only unfortunate part, if all fails, is that that you would have to keep it and even flaunt it sometimes to protect their feelings especially if they like to go down the memory lane reminiscing about things they gifted you in the past
For instance, if your mother in law likes to gift clothes, accessories, home decor items, etc you don’t like
Don’t forget to say thank you and if it doesn’t hurt maybe wear the clothes or display the glass vase she gave you when she visits and once she leaves put them back where you don’t see them
Bad Gifts From In-Laws
May be difficult to believe but your own family can also turn out to be bad gifter.
Sometimes even parents can be the source of unwanted gifts- giving things you don’t need or want in bulk, picking things for you from casual stops at their favorite thrift store, etc.
The only difference being, as opposed to the in-laws, there is slight ease to dealing with unwanted gifts here.
The closest relatives like mom, dad, siblings are the easiest, to tell the truth to.
It is easier to explain why you didn’t like the gift and that you would exchange it for something else.
Unwanted Gifts From Close Relatives
You LOVE them but HATE their choice of gifts. I hear ya!
This includes bad gifts you receive from an old aunt, uncle, cousin, etc.
They put so much thought and effort into buying a gift for you so it is really sad to tell them the truth and hurt their feelings.
Is it really worth having a discussion over? Do you receive gifts from them very often? I am guessing the answer is no.
It is better to keep the lips sealed, tell them you are happy and grateful- after all white lies don’t hurt, and just live with it.
You know what to do here!
Unwanted Gift From A Colleague
Unfortunately being HONEST will not earn you any favors here, it will be the height of bad gift receiving etiquette.
In this case, you can only feign excitement, say thank you and move on. Hopefully, your colleague only gives a gift once a year!
Unwanted Gift From A Friend
There are two types here – the hit or miss friend and the habitual bad gifter.
While the ‘hit or miss gift’ friend is what you can probably live with, the habitual bad gifter friend is the one you would want to address.
Although you can choose to keep your lips sealed; but if the gifts are often expensive or presented more than just one or two times a year, it’s wise to take action so the friend does not waste their money buying things that will be left collecting dust somewhere in your home.
And you as well don’t feel compelled to give them a gift of equal value.
One suggestion is to establish a no gift policy. You don’t buy a gift for each other but celebrate important occasions with
Unwanted Handmade Gifts
If you are feeling disappointed even before you open the 5th homemade DIY gift this year from this person, it’s reason enough to take an action.
DIY homemade gifts are dear to the giver’s heart so it’s all the more heartbreaking to reject a DIY gift.
These gifts are a result of their creativity, patience, and hard work but truth be told they also carry the risk of the recipient not liking them.
Not everybody appreciates homemade DIY homemade gifts like cookie mix in a jar, bath and beauty DIY cosmetics, home decoration DIY, etc.
If you can make your peace with it, DO IT.
If you can’t however then talk to them about it
Addressing the issue head-on is certainly not the best option, you don’t want to seem insensitive. But giving them a hint will only save their time and effort in future so maybe casually mention that you are picky about products and like to stick to store brands you know work the best for you.
For any home decoration related item, you can indicate that you are fine with what you have and don’t wish to add any more decorative items at the moment.
Unwanted Heirloom Gifts
Handed down family heirlooms are special in the significance they hold. Most times people are grateful to receive one but what if you don’t like the heirloom gift?
If it is easy enough to store away then just say that you are genuinely thankful to receive it and store it away safely.
However, if it’s something that you would not like to keep such as an old piano or family heirloom guns, etc then speak to other family members and explain why you can’t keep the heirloom.
Family heirlooms are always a coveted item in every family. See if someone else would like to keep it instead. There might be someone who would like to be the proud owner of the family heirloom.
After all this talk of reacting to bad gits now, it’s time to see what can you actually do with unwanted gifts.
5 Things To Do With Unwanted Gifts
You will end up keeping some gifts you don’t like so you can spare feelings, even if they are left to collect dust. Like gifts from in-laws and older relatives but there will be some other gifts that you would have no issues parting with.
Whatever be the case here are top 5 things you can do with those unwanted gifts-
See if you can repurpose/ refurbish the gift to make it useful for you in some way.
Look up interesting ideas to repurpose the gift- an ugly photo frame or the candleholder. For inspiration, there are a lot of ideas available on crafts related websites and on YouTube that can help you with creative ideas.
This way you will not hurt any feelings and also feel proud of creating something on your own that you can use.
Reselling is another great option, given you have the time to do it.
Online sites are not only for buying but selling as well. You can try to sell unwanted things on Craigslist, eBay, etc. It might not earn you even a decent amount but at least someone will actually get some use out of it.
3. Donate To A Thrift Store
Donating to a thrift store is an easy solution.
If it’s something that you don’t wish to sell/ go through the hassle of selling, don’t feel right selling or think you can’t get anything decent for it then dropping it to the nearest thrift store is the best option.
4. Re gift
Sure you can regift it. Regifting is not entirely uncommon or unheard of.
Somebody’s unwanted gift can be another person’s need or want. But it is essential to be aware of other people’s choices and interests when regifting.
You simply should not re-gift something because you didn’t want to keep it
Don’t want to be called a bad gift giver yourself? Check out these Perfect Gift Tips That Will Skyrocket Your Gift Game
5. Ask Around For Any Takers
Maybe the gift you received is not your style or size but is a better fit for someone else you know. Ask your trusted friend or relatives if they need it before you give it away.
Bad Gift Receiving Etiquette
Gifts make people happy- the ones who are receiving it and also the ones giving it. Although it’s difficult to feel happy when you receive gifts you don’t like. But regardless first and foremost you should always say thank you and express gratitude when you receive one.
But if it is hard for you to do that then remembering this will help.
Giving a gift is a gesture of love, nobody owes it to you.
They choose to give you something because they wanted to make you happy, and they unfortunately failed. But the feeling that someone did something for you out of love should be reason enough to bring a smile to your face.
In addition to thi, no matter what the gift turned out to be, it definitely took time, money and effort on the givers part.
How you can and should handle an unwanted or bad gift will depend on your relationship with the giver.
Your relationship with the person is key here.
A friend is a different type of relationship than a colleague or a relative…
In the end, it is important to realize that gifts are/ should be symbolic in nature, rather than valuable.
Poor gift choices aren’t necessarily meant to be poor. They are sometimes just a matter of wrong choice, a rushed decision or maybe extra creativity, unfortunately.
A bad gift can only make you feel sad for a moment but sometimes it is better to accept them and appreciate the fact that you were thought of.
Staying silent to the gift giver is not a sign of being fake or weak. It is something that we all do to keep relationships healthy. Even if it means you will probably get a hoodie, two sizes too big, in bright color every year even if you hate bright colors and don’t like to wear hoodies!
In the end, chances are even if you have done all that you can to prevent receiving any more bad gifts, someone can and will throw all the advice and hints you gave them out of the window and STILL get you something unsavory again!